Thursday, October 13, 2011


Anonymous said...

I am really sorry that you chose to have this child that will be afflicted with a life long illness. I am sorry that she will battle for well-being every day that she lives. I am sorry for the tax payers, as she will become their burden to bear. All because you decided that it was best for you to breed.

Chances are that your daughter will also breed.

And the cycle will continue.


I don't mind comments and will likely answer just about anything that is posed to me. This one blew me away.

I don't believe that I have ever thought that my daughter would be anything less than an adult who is a positive member of society, supports herself and pays taxes much like I do. My mental illness is not something that most people I know would have any idea about. To the vast majority of people, I am a typical functioning member of society.

Those who are aware of my daughter's diagnosis are shocked when they find out about it. They would have very little cues that she is "suffering" from an illness that will likely affect her for the rest of her life. It is one that is very much a hidden disability. It is one that while she will "suffer" for it's affects, I fully expect her to live a completely normal life. It is one she can overcome and will prosper. She will be given every tool to manage her illness and her issues. She will be allowed to talk openly about her illness if she chooses, or keep it private. She will not be a burden to anyone, and the taxpayers will have no part in paying her way.

I am proud that she is my daughter. As she grows we will talk about how she likely inherited this disorder from me just as I likely did from my mother. I will express to her that I sometimes bear the guilt of that. I will be honest with her. We will talk about the fact that her diagnosis is not a prison sentence. She can do anything she chooses. She can go to college and have a rewarding career and wonderful family just as I do. I support her choice to also have a family if she chooses just as I did. I will not shame her for choosing to have a family and will give her the support she needs to raise her children in a loving, functional and open home.

The cycle may or may not continue. That is not a choice of yours.

The SPEAK campaign that encourages others to speak out and share their issues with mental illness is born due to the attitudes and opinions of people such as this anonymous commenter. People have to be told over and over and over that it is okay to speak out that they are dealing with a mental illness because there will always be those who do not understand. There will always be those that look at us as though we are defective. There will always be those that act as though we should be ashamed and hide our issues. This not the case.

I am not ashamed.

I am not faulty.

I am not a burden.

I am who I am, just as you are who you are.

That is how I want my daughter to view herself. I will fight like hell to make she she never feels like the anonymous commenter and others like him/her view her. She is perfect. Fucking perfect to me.


  1. You are a gift from God and so is your daughter. Anonymous has no clue as to the value of life.

  2. It is so unbelievable to me that people think like that. I almost feel sorry for them. For someone to leave such a hateful comment they must have an awful lot of pain in their own heart.

    Still, what an ASSHAT!

  3. Wow Anonymous that is just not nice. Do you just read blogs to make crappy comments? Have you chosen to breed? If so, do you teach your children to be judgmental and unkind?

  4. Ignorance is bliss!! Bless you must friend for being the
    Better person and shedding such beautiful light.

    Cowards post under anonymous comments!!

  5. Well done for such a 'kind' response to such vitriol! And I admire you for still allowing us to post.I got scared after the other negative comment that you'd shut down and then I'd never be able to say anything to you.Haters are everywhere.You have a lot of support on your side!